Here’s my thesis: building a life of freedom and autonomy is like rolling a heavy boulder over an inverted parabolic hill while the villagers gather around laughing at you. That obviously sounds crazy but do bear with me as I meander towards the point!
I’ll start with a couple of observations.
First, life is usually hard in some way. You can have a large influence over exactly what specific challenges you’ll come up against, but there isn’t a magic way of making life easy. Learning to accept this fact was probably the single biggest personal development leap I ever made.
For example, if you had 10 million pounds, assuming you made reasonably sensible decisions, you’d be set for life (financially) but it wouldn’t ‘complete’ you. There would be no chorus of singing angels or sense of permanent fulfillment. Maybe you wouldn’t be able to think of what to do next. Perhaps you’d attract a load of shallow, money-grabbing friends who only wanted you for your wealth. Who knows? The grass would not be as green as you think it would. (more…)